The discussion is not new its as old as Shiva and
Parvathi, and when goddess chose Shiva who was not considered as ideal husband by her parents, but still she
married him and they became the ideal
couple to the world, and we call them as
'vaak artha iva samprikthau, jagatah
pitarau vande parvati parameshwarau' Is
there any question or doubt about Love
marriage?
We have seen many couple around us,
since childhood starting from parents.
The married life of parents very much
affects the thoughts of children. If they
are happily married and an ideal couple
children will think theirs was the best
marriage, it could be Love or Arranged.
Then you start looking at all the people
around you and have your own
conclusions on marriages. But hey until
you are married what ever analysis you do
on others life is fake!! Because none of
the couple will show what they are inside
outside! So all your assumptions they are
happy, they are unhappy is baseless.
So how do you decide whether to go for
Love marriage or Arranged? You need
not decide. When it happens it happens. If
you fall in love and get same
reciprocation from other side, just go with
that. If you do not fall in love, or if you do
not get reciprocation from otherside, just
go with traditional search and love the
partner you get. It is that simple. Nobody
decides to fall in love. If you decide to go
for Love marriage and go on rejecting all
proposals you get from traditional ways,
you might have missed your love in one of
them, who knows!!
And after marriage, whether it was Love
marriage or Arranged marriage, it is the
Love for each other that makes or breaks
a marriage.
If each person has a space for other
person in his heart, ready to make
sacrifices, then only the life long
partnership will continue. If one is selfish,
and does not want to sacrifice anything
for the sake of partner, then no doubt the
marriage will not last.
Love marriage with the blessings of elders
is a dream come true. But often it does not
happen, but then you are proud you have
taken your decision, you have not ditched
the person whom you loved, you take all
the responsibility to keep the other person
happy. The other person will not ditch
you because he or she know how much
you sacrificed to marry her.
My vote is for Love marriage, as long as
both the people involved in decision
making are mature and sensible. But I
really wonder how many of the young
generation are really smart enough to
take right decisions, choose the right life
partner. Because you do not choose a life
partner just because she likes the same
chocolate which you eat, but if she reads
the same book you read, there is some
match. But again it is not common interest
that matters, it is how much love you have
for each other, how much of an extra mile
you will go to keep your love light the
way.
As long as you want to make your
partner's life a heaven and not hell, and
do not expect him to make your life
heaven, then your life, love and
everything around you will be a paradise.
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