Its not the marriage, its the Love that matters

The discussion is not new its as old as Shiva and  

Parvathi, and when goddess chose Shiva who was not considered as ideal husband by her parents, but still she 

married him and they became the ideal 

couple to the world, and we call them as 

'vaak artha iva samprikthau, jagatah 

pitarau vande parvati parameshwarau' Is 

there any question or doubt about Love 

marriage?

We have seen many couple around us, 

since childhood starting from parents. 

The married life of parents very much 

affects the thoughts of children. If they 

are happily married and an ideal couple 

children will think theirs was the best 

marriage, it could be Love or Arranged. 

Then you start looking at all the people 

around you and have your own 

conclusions on marriages. But hey until 

you are married what ever analysis you do 

on others life is fake!! Because none of 

the couple will show what they are inside 

outside! So all your assumptions they are 

happy, they are unhappy is baseless.

So how do you decide whether to go for 

Love marriage or Arranged? You need 

not decide. When it happens it happens. If 

you fall in love and get same 

reciprocation from other side, just go with 

that. If you do not fall in love, or if you do 

not get reciprocation from otherside, just 

go with traditional search and love the 

partner you get. It is that simple. Nobody 

decides to fall in love. If you decide to go 

for Love marriage and go on rejecting all 

proposals you get from traditional ways, 

you might have missed your love in one of 

them, who knows!!

And after marriage, whether it was Love 

marriage or Arranged marriage, it is the 

Love for each other that makes or breaks 

a marriage.

If each person has a space for other 

person in his heart, ready to make 

sacrifices, then only the life long 

partnership will continue. If one is selfish, 

and does not want to sacrifice anything 

for the sake of partner, then  no doubt the 

marriage will not last.

Love marriage with the blessings of elders 

is a dream come true. But often it does not 

happen, but then you are proud you have 

taken your decision, you have not ditched 

the person whom you loved, you take all 

the responsibility to keep the other person 

happy. The other person will not ditch 

you because he or she know how much 

you sacrificed to marry her.

My vote is for Love marriage, as long as 

both the people involved in decision 

making are mature and sensible. But I 

really wonder how many of the young 

generation are really smart enough to 

take right decisions, choose the right life 

partner. Because you do not choose a life 

partner just because she likes the same 

chocolate which you eat, but if she reads 

the same book you read, there is some 

match. But again it is not common interest 

that matters, it is how much love you have 

for each other, how much of an extra mile 

you will go to keep your love light the 

way.

As long as you want to make your 

partner's life a heaven and not hell, and 

do not expect him to make your life 

heaven, then your life, love and 

everything around you will be a paradise.

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