Wednesday, August 15, 2012

Its not the marriage, its the Love that matters


The discussion is not new its as old as Shiva and  
Parvathi, and when goddess chose Shiva who was not considered as ideal husband by her parents, but still she 
married him and they became the ideal 
couple to the world, and we call them as 
'vaak artha iva samprikthau, jagatah 
pitarau vande parvati parameshwarau' Is 
there any question or doubt about Love 
marriage?

We have seen many couple around us, 
since childhood starting from parents. 
The married life of parents very much 
affects the thoughts of children. If they 
are happily married and an ideal couple 
children will think theirs was the best 
marriage, it could be Love or Arranged. 

Then you start looking at all the people 
around you and have your own 
conclusions on marriages. But hey until 
you are married what ever analysis you do 
on others life is fake!! Because none of 
the couple will show what they are inside 
outside! So all your assumptions they are 
happy, they are unhappy is baseless.

So how do you decide whether to go for 
Love marriage or Arranged? You need 
not decide. When it happens it happens. If 
you fall in love and get same 
reciprocation from other side, just go with 
that. If you do not fall in love, or if you do 
not get reciprocation from otherside, just 
go with traditional search and love the 
partner you get. It is that simple. Nobody 
decides to fall in love. If you decide to go 
for Love marriage and go on rejecting all 
proposals you get from traditional ways, 
you might have missed your love in one of 
them, who knows!!

And after marriage, whether it was Love 
marriage or Arranged marriage, it is the 
Love for each other that makes or breaks 
a marriage.

If each person has a space for other 
person in his heart, ready to make 
sacrifices, then only the life long 
partnership will continue. If one is selfish, 
and does not want to sacrifice anything 
for the sake of partner, then  no doubt the 
marriage will not last.

Love marriage with the blessings of elders 
is a dream come true. But often it does not 
happen, but then you are proud you have 
taken your decision, you have not ditched 
the person whom you loved, you take all 
the responsibility to keep the other person 
happy. The other person will not ditch 
you because he or she know how much 
you sacrificed to marry her.

My vote is for Love marriage, as long as 
both the people involved in decision 
making are mature and sensible. But I 
really wonder how many of the young 
generation are really smart enough to 
take right decisions, choose the right life 
partner. Because you do not choose a life 
partner just because she likes the same 
chocolate which you eat, but if she reads 
the same book you read, there is some 
match. But again it is not common interest 
that matters, it is how much love you have 
for each other, how much of an extra mile 
you will go to keep your love light the 
way.

As long as you want to make your 

partner's life a heaven and not hell, and 

do not expect him to make your life 

heaven, then your life, love and 

everything around you will be a paradise.

check out the new TV Program here 

www.facebook.com/LoveYaArrange.